In today's society being sexy is highly valued. Sex sells. And the more sex appeal that one exudes the more attractive one is perceived to be. Often being sexy is equated to breast size, shape of the rear, or gap in between the thighs of women, and the pec size, muscle tone, or amount of hair on the heads of men. Being sexy is often dialed to it's most fundamental component of being a result of the physical attributes of a person when in my opinion this couldn't be further from the truth. Being sexy is more than our physical make-up and has more to do with our attitudes, and begins in the mind. We having been brainwashed and bamboozled by the propaganda of Hollywood with regards to what we deem to be sexy. And when placed under much scrutiny, we find that Hollywood can't even keep up with it's own standards in that much of the images and media produced are fake, unsustainable, and down right impossible to obtain in real life. (Click Here for a great article about some of the antics that models and personalities in the media do in order to achieve their flawless image)
Even though being sexy is often equated to our physical attributes, it begins in the mind of a person. Being sexy starts with what we think about ourselves first then leads to how we feel about ourselves resulting in our level of self-esteem. I've encountered many men and women who would be deemed sexy by societal standards, but due to how they viewed themselves, their attitude wasn't sexy or appealing at all. Vice versa. I've ran across many men and women, who by societal standards would not be judged as sexy as a result of their physical appearance, but their personality manifested sexiness to the max. They were confident about who they were on the inside, which shined on the outside. If you have the view that you have to have the perfect "10" body in order to be sexy, than think again. Being sexy is about your mindset. It's about your attitude and having confidence. It's about smiling more and having a captivating personality that intrigues and fascinates as opposed to having the "perfect pecs," or a nice rack. Thus, being sexy starts in the mind, working it's way through our feelings,manifesting through your personalty.
In short, their is nothing wrong with wanting to being sexy, attractive, and appealing, but it's essential that even though we're striving to be in the best physical shape that's obtainable for our genes, physical appearance isn't what it's all about. Our physical appearance is a small component of being sexy, appealing, and attractive. It begins with the inside first, then works to the outside. The world has it backwards. It doesn't start on the outside! So, smile more, look people in the eyes, stand straight and upright, and speak with confidence! Because dog'gon'it! People like you!