By Philana Yvette
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. ~ Leo Tolstoy
As I was washing dishes one of my dogs started barking, and would just not stop! I opened my kitchen window and yelled out for him to hush. Just as I did this my little cousin whom is 3 years old said, "What's the problem!"
I responded, "I don't know Mia. He barks at everything, and it's way to early for that."
Mia looks at me, props her elbow on my cabinet, and say's, "Dogs bark! It's what they do."
As I stood there looking at her I didn't truly understand what she was saying, but yet I agreed. I stopped telling Cornbread, my dog, to hush, and instead focused on washing the dishes.
I didn't think anything else about it until a few days ago when Cornbread came to the door barking for a treat. "I'm coming Cornbread! Cornbread hush! I'm coming! Why can you not bark like Wally, (my other dog)" I said.
As I was kneeling down getting treats out, I heard Itty Bitty Mia's voice in my head..."Dogs Bark! It's What They Do."
So I stopped telling Cornbread to hush and gave him and Wally their treats. I mean after all it was treat time. So hey, maybe he was just making sure I didn't forget...lol.
I guess in a way that can apply to people and relationships also. We do what we do. We are who we are, and unless we want to change yelling at us and trying to force change will not work.
We can't make people change their habits, values, or lifestyle. Sometimes we think we know what’s best for others, but if we’re honest with ourselves we’ll likely realize we want people to change when we simply don’t feel satisfied being in a relationship with them as they are. I’m not talking about people who are violent, dangerous to themselves, or in any way abusive. No one should ever feel bound to an unhealthy situation by the ideas of unconditional love and acceptance. But I'm speaking to your average person that has various quirks and interests that makes them unique.
We should and can appreciate them for all their unique quirks, interests, and preferences. You want a change? Change yourself! That's right. Change your reaction toward them. Stop trying to change others and just accept them the way they are. Either appreciate and accept those in your life for who they are, or let them go.
Now of course more often then not when I tell my dogs to hush or be quite they do, but now, well now, I will accept the fact that every squirrel, butterfly, bug, and even a bag in the wind will be barked at simply because it's who they are and what they do.
Dogs Bark! It's What They Do ~ Mia Lyttle
Born in the city and raised in the mountains of Ky. Taking on life one day at a time!